dude hits me up on one of the sites. his profile says he is 45 years old. however in his pics he looks barely into his 20's. Japanese guy. i message him back and say there is no way you are 45 years old. though i'm also thinking there is no way those pics are current. however, i know alot of people of color look way younger than their age... case in point myself transness aside. we bond over getting carded regularly at bars and even at times for cigarettes. i'm still a little suspicious about the pics but we keep chatting. he's interesting. i've found that older guys often have lots of interesting stories and he seems interesting. he has strong racial politics which is also a major plus.
he has never done a trans guy, in fact he has only been with non trans guys his entire life. he states he is not sure about how he will react but thinks i'm majorly hot. we get into a pattern of sending at least daily messages to each other discussing a wide range of topics from what we want to do sexually to gentrification.
after about a week or so of this he mentions getting together to explore my body i.e. fuck. we decide to arrange a date however i'm feeling conflicted. on one hand he seems like a real interesting guy and his pics are cute and he said he prefers a slow sensual fuck and right now i mostly have rough dom types. on the other i have a feeling his pics are inaccurate and he is not gonna by attractive to me. i also have this feeling that maybe his pics are very, very old and he will not look anything like his pics. don't get me wrong i get majorly into a hot daddy but i'm unsure if this dude is that. however, i decide to just go for it mostly cuz i find him interesting, i tell him to meet me at a coffee shop near my place so i can feel it out.
we meet up one week night evening. he shows up and he doesn't look like his pics. however he's cute in a round, brown boi kind of way that i find very attractive. we chat some and then i ask if he wants to go back to my place. he says sure. we get back to my apartment and resume chatting on my couch. now i'm realizing maybe he's not so attractive to me. the coffee shop lighting was a bit dim.... he also is not really as interesting in person. we chat for a while, random usual prefuck chat, nothing inspiring. I'm feeling disappointed as he was so interesting via email....
he seems like he could keep on chatting all night so i realize i'm gonna have to make the first move. i ask if he wants to go to the bedroom. he says ok and we head to my room. this is when things start going even more down hill. we strip and i realize he really is even less attractive to me without his clothes on. however, i hold out for that sensual fuck he described.
we fuck. its not short, but not long and just not that great. the whole slow sensual fuck he described to me is no where near what happens. basically i ride him til i cum then he cums soon after. nothing sensual about that. after we are done i decide i want him to leave though its clear he wouldn't mind staying and chatting. i toss him a towel and ask if he wants to clean off. he cleans up, i thank him for coming over and show him out.